There's an article about a list of questions that couples should discuss before getting married. Unsurprisingly, this is the most emailed story from today's NY Times.
Also not much of a surprise are most of the questions. What about kids? Money? Heath issues? Career plans? Yada yada.
But here's a surprise. Coming in at number seven on the list:
Will there be a television in the bedroom?
My answer? I don't want one, but if you do, go for it.
You think the reason I'm still a bachelor is that I'm too easy to get along with?
7 comments:
Everybody's easy to get along with until they get married. Something in the cake or something.
I suspect #7, TV in the bedroom came from the more curvaceous sex, as they seem to get pissed at the sounds of Sports Center at 2AM in the morning, or us, kicked back watching the NFL eating God only knows what and slobbering on the sheets. Once you're married, you learn these things - and damn fast, too!!
You were TAGGED back in the comments of "Chew On This." Git crackin'!!
came over from tua's blog --- HELLLLOOOOO?!?!? where's your book tag? hmmmm? hmmmm? hmmmmm? don't make me send poop sandwiches your way....
no- chicks dig guys who are easy to control- um get along with :) i have been married 9 years and i think that i would add a question- since i didn't actually read the article i am going to assume this one isn't on there- are you gay? nope- hubby isn't but a former friend of ours is. he got married and divorced within 2 years- and while his lovely bride was rather mannish- she was built like a logger and wore flannel and overalls- she wasn't too keen on his not really liking her.
don't blame me for this comment- i came over from tua's blog :)
I think the TV in the bedroom thing is a good idea. When the wife's sex appeal starts to dim, in goes the video. Too bad she doesn't come with a remote too!
I actually would go further and establish some expectation of how much time per week the spouse wants to watch TV and what (sports? news? telenovelas?)
Changing someone's TV viewing habits is more difficult than getting them to wash dishes, and nagging makes you seem like, well, a nag.
We don't get TV reception and don't have cable, so our TV watching is limited in duration to the length of a DVD. It has been great for us, and I highly recommend it.
I venture to predict that permitting your children to watch television will one day go the way of spanking and be recognized as a form of child abuse. Sadly, most parents today think it is abusive to deny their children the soma they so obviously crave.
Since there aren't any t.v. shows we actually watch, I was never an advocate of the box in the bedroom. Electric outlets in the boudoir are better suited to other toys, I think.
But after accompanying my husband on a recent business trip, I found out that he's a secret Sports-Center-in-the-hotel-addict.
I found the show somewhat fascinating. Let's see, on Sunday night, I was awoken by a human imitating the sound of the old video game character, Pac-Man, as he recounted a football play.
And think of the improved marital communications now that I can describe the first punch thrown in the Thrilla In The Garden and how Iverson will fit in in Melo's absence. I'm, like, the perfect wife now, all due to Sports Center in the bedroom.
You know, I slave away at my screeds, trying to further discussions about CFLs, industry trends, religious controversies, and subtleties of the English language.
And what do the highly articulate and diverse readers all want to chime in about? Television.
TFYW and Supergirlest: Book tag done. Save your sandwiches for those who deserve them.
Betmo: the article did not specifically suggest inquiring about orientation, but there was a more general question about sex: how, how much, and so forth. Presumably, mutual interest, or lack thereof, would become apparent, given sufficient attention to the answers.
I dunno, though. I've heard about some people coming out after getting married, and I suspect at least one explanation might be that in a loving (if eventually Platonic) relationship, one has the best chance yet of coming to grips with deeply buried motivations.
Less charitably, let me channel any member of the Coalition of the Shilling, and suggest that the wife's mannish wardrobe turned her husband gay. ;^)
Anonymous: I suspect the millions of women who read this blog regularly immediately thought, "Don't get me started on hand-held battery-powered devices necessitated by MY husband." (Since they are above such pettiness, I just figured I'd throw that out there.)
Dan Weston: You get no argument from me about any of your words. I don't think I'd rule a potential partner out just for liking a little tube, though. I burn a lot of time reading slasher novels, and I was thankful to have had a respectable book closest when tagged.
Clare: You're way nicer a wife than you were a sister. How come you wouldn't let ME get MY way, when I preferred Get Christie Love to Police Woman?
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